Coaching
Great coaching can improve your life - run experiments
I claim that coaching can be among the ten best things you do for your impact and well-being this year which will have important ripple effects on your life. More concretely, I claim that this holds true with an investment of ~ 12-20 sessions with a great coach that fits you well. This is a big-if-true claim and I urge you to take it seriously by
- Experimenting with coaching yourself
- Reading a more rigorous case (including academic evidence, reasoning, and case studies in the comment section) that I co-authored on the Effective Altruism Forum here
Sadly, finding a great coach is difficult and some coaches are clearly misguided (e.g., revenue optimizing click bait on Youtube) while others are clearly under confident in the value they provide. Consequently, coaching is a high variance service. Fortunately, even okay-ish coaching with a well-intended beginner coach (or close friend) seems to improve the subsequent week by ~ 10% in terms of productivity, well-being, or habits so don’t be too risk-averse with experimenting (see a thoughtful post by Ben Kuhn here).
So how do you go about finding the right coach?
- Find a few promising coaches
- Ask like-minded peers whether they’ve benefited from a particular coach
- Explore at least one other coach’s website/offer (see an overview of coaches here)
- Set up a free fit call (if possible)
- Run an experiment (e.g., six sessions) with the most promising one
Okay, so with that clarified, I’ll now enthusiastically yet sincerely present my coaching which has some probability of being one of the best five things you do this year (unless, of course, you’re reading this by the end of the year, lol )
Potential results
Benefits acquired
1
Vision and hopeful career strategy
2
Thinking, reasoning, and decision-making
3
Peak performance and purposeful productivity
Well-being
4
Approximating your best self
5
Growth mindset
6
Masterpiece days
How you spend your days is how you spend your life. You’ll build meaningful morning and evening habits that you’ll follow with high consistency – not just something you do for a few days and then stop because it gets boring or you forget about it.
7
Self-relationship and self-compassion
8
Overcoming and growing from challenges (anti-fragile)
9
Habit mastery (including digital mastery)
10
Habit mastery (including digital mastery)
10
Pains alleviated
Social comparisons and need for validation
1
Struggling with our collective suffering and existential problems
2
Hopelessness and victimhood
3
Procrastination and guilt
4
Burnout and putting out fires
5
Perfectionism and inadequacy
6
What they say
Kat Woods (Founder of Nonlinear)
Michael Andregg (Co-founder of Fathom Radiant)
Michael is co-founder of Fathom Radiant – a company building a new type of computer to enable safe machine intelligence who has investors like Jaan Tallinn and Jeff Bezos and has been advised by FHI’s GovAI.
Mathias Bonde Chairperson of EA Denmark
Research Fellow in Economics
My approach
You’ll get a space for going deep on what’s most important to you facilitated by someone who’s an attentive listener and cares about your flourishing. Having such a space while getting the undivided attention of another thoughtful and capable person can be effective. Two minds tend to be better than one.
I’ll be focused on who you are now and who you are capable of being. Most of the time, you’ll feel my warmth, appreciation of the progress you’re making, and curiosity about what you want to work on. Other times, you’ll be challenged by my questions and suggested directions. Collaboratively balancing these two commitments is difficult and that’s why we’ll co-create a feedback culture between us because no one is perfect and you and I aren’t going to be the first ones.
I recognize that we humans are fascinatingly complex systems with different parts that all interact with each other. Maybe your perceived pain point (or bug) is “I’m not productive enough” but the actual problem is that you’ve lost touch with your professional purpose, sleeping suboptimally, or that your schedule is all over the place and lack good habits.
You almost certainly have great ideas, insights, and theories about how you want yourself and the world to be. You’ve read and listened to many books, blogs, and podcasts and you’ve had many inspiring conversations. That’s great (👊)! Sadly, this isn’t sufficient for your long-term flourishing. Consequently, this means that many of your improvements have likely remained temporary quick fixes or short-lived emotional reliefs as opposed to consistent and long-lasting change. Therefore, we’ll take substantial care to translate the things we work on into high-quality yet pragmatic implementations and follow up on them. Moving you from theory to practice.
Paul Rohde, is an inspiring person and is the main person who introduced me to coaching.
He manages to simultaneously be a
- Decent publishing researcher (PhD at LSE)
- Early-phase Founder (flourishing humanity corporation)
- Coach
- Playfully light-hearted friend.
The craziest thing though? He was working as a shop clerk when he was 19 with no intentions of doing high school and university due to his socioeconomic background. But due to some great teachers and substantial personal development he incrementally changed his life over the past 13 years.
He epitomizes positive psychology (the science and practice of human flourishing) and behavioral intervention science (data-driven psychology with a focus on creating behavioral change via interventions) while being a light-hearted, and intellectually capable person. I’ve had the fortune of living and/or co-working with him for three years (a lot of osmosis), received 57 coaching sessions (some of which were 4 hours long), and hundreds of intense discussions. While you’re likely better off by getting coaching from him (do check his availability) you’ll still be benefitting partly from his expertise via me.
How I view the peaks of human development is deeply informed by my 7-year long involvement with effective altruism. Both the project (doing the most good) and the community and its norms (which is great but has room for improvment). This means I attempt to set high moral standards for myself and others and support you in doing the most good with your career and life and focus on the careers that you find particularly promising while still taking care of yourself. Additionally, I try to cultivate a Scout Mindset: the motivation to see things as they are – not as you wish for them to be. With that said, your intuitions and judgment can be incredibly important and hardcore rationality and deference to authorities can foster unhealthy self-doubt.
The offer - six session experiment
Session duration:
1.5 hours.
Price:
$200-400 per session.
Frequency:
Weekly (at least the first four weeks)
Initial commitment:
Six session experiment because long-term change takes effort and takes consistency. For reference, this study found that it takes anywhere between 18 to 254 days to change habits in high quality and lasting ways. While we work on things other than habits, I believe that this is illustrative of the point I’m making.
Time-investment:
In addition to the weekly sessions, it’s essential that you invest an additional ~ 2 hours in the tailored action points you identify during each session (lasting change takes strategic implementation and sustained effort).
Why you shouldn't work with me.
You can find a better coach than me. While I’ve come to believe that I’m a great coach for my niche there are also other great coaches out there. The following coaches might currently be as good or better than me for some people:
– Paul Rohde (He has my highest recommendation and I get coaching from him. However, he might not be a good choice if you are not seriously committed and if you have difficulties with occasional tough love.).
– Tee Barnett (For leaders, specifically).
– Georgie Nightingall (For emotional work, specifically).